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Pilgrim on the Cross Road

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I was in a restaurant eating fish with my wife. Fish, but no loaves. If there was a miracle to be had, I missed my chance when I turned away from the man in the leather bomber jacket and went back to my dinner.

I never learned his name. He was curly-haired, 40 or so, wearing dress slacks, an open-collar shirt and the jacket. He moved by our table, looking at me nervously and then paused near the restaurant's cash register. I watched from across the room as he rubbed his face and hitched his shoulders. I could see his expression resolve into decision, and he turned back to our table.…

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Hooked on Watching

By Joseph Epstein

I am freshly arisen from watching Maryland beat Duke in overtime in the ACC tournament finals. The outcome was pleasing to me, for I have an unexplained dislike for Duke basketball teams. I was watching with the sound turned off, for I have an easily explained dislike for the gushing Dick Vitale, who was doing the color for ESPN

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My Welcoming Embrace

By Kathleen Whitney Barr

Pregnancy is a social magnet. Complete strangers want to look at you, talk to you and touch you. Usually, I like the attention. I don’t even mind those who want to place a hand on my belly, especially if they are women or little old men from the “old country.” But when the conversation turns to, “So is this your first?” I wish that maternity burqas

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American Woman, Gotta Get Away

By Kay Jordan

When I travel I try to blend in with the natives. My success is limited. I’m taller than most women, taller than the average man in many cultures. I’m white, wear glasses and sport short hair. Like the majority of Americans I don’t speak a second language, but I’m always disappointed when, before I open my mouth, people in other countries address me in English. I would be insulted if anyone described me as a “typical American.” However, a summer trip to a quaint island in the quiet Baltic Sea transformed my view of my American self.…

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The Great American Road Trip

By Andrew H. Malcolm

It starts—or should—in the predawn darkness of the first day of vacation. You get up earlier than usual not because you must but because you want to. For the first time in many, many months you relish not knowing what you will do or see this day, where you will go, what you will eat and learn, and what place you will sleep that night.…

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The love that dare not speak its name

By Kerry Temple ’74

_'The love that dare not speak its name.'—Oscar Wilde_ A quarter century ago, in a conversation with a University officer about the role of _Notre Dame Magazine_ and its editorial philosophy, I was told that any topic was fair game—except homosexuality. The topic is no longer taboo, and during the past two decades the magazine occasionally has dealt with homosexuality on its pages, and it has always incited a heated reaction. Some say the magazine is too timid in its treatment of the subject; others say this magazine is no place to discuss such matters.

In all this time—until now—we've never had an openly gay person write a piece for the magazine about his or her sexual orientation. I recall only a few stories submitted by openly gay alumni about homosexual-related topics in the nine years I've been editor, and these didn't see print simply because they didn't meet the magazine's standards in terms of writing quality, style or approach. Of course, we didn't go looking for gay alumni to write for us either—until now.…

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My alternative lifestyle: It's a love that has wings, a countercultural calling that turns restraint into liberation

By Ron Belgau

“Looks about half full,” I say as I hand the dipstick to Mark. I’m awkwardly perched on the wing strut of a Cessna 172 under a drizzly Northwest sky. I tighten the fuel cap and climb down from the wing, then walk around to the other wing and climb up. After checking the oil level, looking for water in the fuel and inspecting the control surface linkages, we strap in and go through the pre-start checklist. The engine rumbles to life, and we taxi out to the runway. We go through another checklist, then Mark opens up the throttle. We’re off, down the runway and into the battleship gray sky.…

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What the church has to say

By John Monczunski

Despite repeated iterations and reiterations of Roman Catholic Church teaching over the past 30 years from the Vatican and the U.S. Catholic bishops, the morality of homosexuality remains clouded and confused in the minds of many Catholics. Stated in the simplest terms, the core of that teaching emphasizes that being homosexual

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Resolving family differences

By Ed Cohen

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Visitors to campus March 18, 2004, would have had a hard time believing Notre Dame has a reputation for being unwelcoming to gay people. Hundreds of students and employees that day could be seen wearing bright orange T-shirts reading “Gay? Fine by Me.”

An unofficial student group called the Gay-Straight Alliance said it sold about 1,600 of the shirts and encouraged people to wear them March 18 and thereafter as a sign of solidarity between gay and straight members of the campus community. The event was modeled on a concept born at Duke University. A second unity day was held April 21.…

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Notre Dame's Point Person

By Ed Cohen

The name in the directory is Sister Mary Louise Gude, CSC, (pronounced "goody") but students and colleagues alike call her "ML." She has lived in student residence halls for 21 years and joined the Office of Student Affairs in 1998—the same year, she recalls, "that the Progressive Student Alliance was campaigning for sexual orientation to be included in the University's nondiscrimination clause." In addition to other duties, ML is Notre Dame's central liaison with homosexual students and is chairperson of the University's Standing Committee for Gay and Lesbian Student Needs. Near the end of this school year she sat to talk:

ND Magazine:

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All the way home

By Christopher Temple Davis '83

We live on a tree-lined street, with kids and a dog and a story that is more or less typical. Our yard is large for a Minneapolis city lot. In the front is a patch of weeds, the frequent stage for our sons, Luke and Ryan, to play tag, ride bikes and build snow forts. The fenced-in backyard, which actually has vegetation that can be classified as grass, is reserved for our golden retriever Molly and the havoc she wreaks on our boys' games of baseball, soccer and football. Each fall I decide to improve the landscape by sowing some seed and spreading several handfuls of fertilizer. But I'm reminded of the futility of those plans each spring when the snow-pack melts and the games begin.

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Finding me here: I came to Notre Dame wanting to be someone I'm not.

By Rose Lindgren '04

I chatted nervously with my friends sitting at the table. I didn’t want to face front. I had scanned the crowd—inconspicuously, I hoped—from the side of the room. I saw a lot of faces I knew. Okay, just breathe. No big deal. You knew what you were getting into when you filled out that application. Now you have to take up that responsibility. Hey, it’s easier this way, right? Get it all done at once

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God gave me a gay son . . . and I did not always think it a blessing. By

By Thomas A. Nelson '53

Mark gazed out the small window of his dorm room. It was Saturday morning and the bitter cold bleakness outside matched his mood. He may have made a mistake going to school so far north and so far from home, but he had chosen this school in northern Michigan because he loved the natural environment of the north country where he could ski, hike in the woods and enjoy the serenity of this sparsely populated place. Mark also had thought college would bring people into his life who wanted a good educational experience, people with whom he could be open and find companionship. But the dream turned into a nightmare.…

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A note on the contents

By The editors

Homosexuality. It’s a subject whose various dimensions incite tempests of protest and moral indignation. The debate over gay marriage. Arguments over gay clergy. The clash over nature versus nurture. The causes of physical attraction, the expression of affection, love and sexual desire. The normalization of gay lifestyles in popular culture. The need for acceptance, affirmation, intimacy, community, family. The strength of Catholic doctrine. The compassion of Catholic teaching. Volatile issues all.

Issues, in fact, that caused disagreement among the magazine staff even as we planned this edition. Yet while we may not have found agreement on the points debated, we did reach a consensus on what to include in this selection of stories-although few will approve of all that is presented here.…

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On a Mission

By Henry C. Mayer '52, '57M.A.

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When he heard the call, George Pope answered. He was a young man, and when a priest at Notre Dame made his pitch for the Holy Cross missions in Bengal, Pope took the words to heart. He graduated from the University in 1954, joined the Congregation of Holy Cross and arrived in Dhaka in November 1958. He would spend 44 of the next 46 years of his life in the place now known as Bangladesh.…

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Domers in the News

By Notre Dame Magazine

President Bush has nominated engineer and long-time defense industry executive Francis J. Harvey '65 to become the next secretary of the Army. He is the former chief operating officer of a division of Westinghouse Electric Corporation. . . . Rich Baker '65 came forward in August to dispute political ads charging that Democratic presidential nominee John Kerry didn't deserve the Purple Hearts and medals Kerry won for courage during his four months of service as a Swift boat commander in Vietnam. "Every Swift boat officer gave his all in Vietnam, but Kerry stood above the rest of us," Baker, a former Navy lieutenant and Swift boat commander, told the _Pittsburgh Post-Gazette_. "He was number one as far as courageousness and aggressiveness. He set the tone." Baker arrived in Vietnam in 1968, just before Kerry, the article said. . . . Air Force Lieutenant General Henry Anthony "Trey" Obering III '73…

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The Hawaiian Band: A short story from _Arroyo_ (Momotombo Press)

By Lisa Gonzales

When I laugh about the Hawaiian Band with my sister, Ruby, we’re not laughing about music, although there was plenty of music in our house, and not just from the radio because Ruby and I would sing in harmony. I played the piano—so did our Auntie Lally, her painted fingernails clicking the keys like chips of red bone —and we would sing nearly every night, or have big festas in the front yard where my old avó would play the mandolin so lightly that the music and the breeze seemed to be one, drifting over our bodies in the dark.…

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Books in Print

By Carol Schaal '91M.A.

Notre Dame vs. The Klan: How the Fighting Irish Defeated the Ku Klux Klan, _Todd Tucker'90_ (Loyola Press). During two days of riots in May 1924, Notre Dame students took on the Indiana KKK. The KKK wasn't reacting to the students' race but to their religion—Catholicism. "Look around: they are already taking over the schools, flaunting our laws, changing the very nature of the United States, a Protestant country at its birth," a KKK leader asserted at a state rally in the early 1920s. Here the author details how and why the two institutions came to loggerheads at the height of anti-Catholicism in America. The book continues through the aftermath of the three-day confrontation in downtown South Bend, including the football team's winning Rose Bowl appearance and the Indiana KKK's eventual implosion.

A Sinner of Memory

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Alumni briefs

By Alumni Association

Preparing for Christmas
The 2004 Notre Dame Advent Calendar is illustrated with a snow-covered view of the Basilica and Main Building, taken from Father Hesburgh's library office. Behind a window for each day of Advent, a campus image is shown opposite text about the meaning of Christmas. The calendar was produced for the second year by Kevin Sandberg, CSC, '88, '04M.Div., with his sister, Eileen Trimble '89. Proceeds benefit the Congregation of Holy Cross. The calendar is available at the Notre Dame Hammes Bookstore or by calling 800-647-4641.

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Reconstructing a Fair to Remember

By Carol Schaal '91M.A.

It was all so new and exciting: Electricity! Moving pictures! Refrigerators! Ice cream cones! Photos of the 1904 World’s Fair in Saint Louis, Missouri, reveal a stunning vista of white palaces, lagoons, pavilions and gardens. Then it was gone; the building torn down, the grounds returned to a park.

“It’s very frustrating,” says Saint Louis native Jim Blase ‘81J.D., "because we heard a lot about it but can’t picture it."…

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Inside the Game with Notre Dame Sports Books

By Carol Schaal '91M.A.

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It’s time, says Mike Coffey ‘91, for Notre Dame basketball fans to get over their inferiority complex.

A software engineer for a South Bend firm, Coffey also serves as men’s basketball editor of NDNation.com. When Torin Francis gave his commitment in 2001 to play basketball at Notre Dame, a writer on the NDNation message board expressed surprise. "One person said, ‘Boy, this kind of thing never happens in Notre Dame basketball.’…

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An Amazing Tale of Real World Connections

By Liz Warren

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When an up-and-coming screenwriter and a popular actor meet on a film location in Japan, their rapport quickly leads to friendship. Amazement ensues when the two discover they have more in common than a mutual fondness for film trivia and an appreciation for the well-turned phrase.…

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Momotombo Press

By Carol Schaal '91M.A.

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Francisco Aragon, a fellow at Notre Dame’s Institute for Latino Studies and a 2003 graduate of the MFA program at Notre Dame, is the founding editor and director of Momotombo Press. The press, which supports emerging Latino/a writers, is named after a volcano in Nicaragua. Aragon recently moved the press from Davis, California, to Notre Dame. This fall the press debuts in its new home with the publication of Arroyo

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The Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name, p. 2

By Readers

_Editor's note: The following letters were received through the magazine's React Online form and from those written or emailed to the magazine._ "Page 1":/news/10626, "Page 3":/news/10628, "Page 4":/news/10629, "Page 5":/news/10630 It is with regret that I hereby request that you remove my name from your list of subscribers. I have for many years enjoyed keeping up with goings on at Notre Dame through the magazine. Your current issue, however, sadly demonstrates an editorial philosophy that I cannot find edifying and must protest against.

I am greatly disturbed by Mr. Temple's statement in his editor's note that: "Homosexuality is . . . a fascinatingly rich subject that gets into human nature, love and sexual attraction; brings together science, psychology, sociology and religion; that involves family, morality and cultural mores; that raises questions of Catholic doctrine and the individual's conscience."…

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The Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name, p. 3

By Readers

_Editor's note: The following letters were received through the magazine's React Online form and from those written or emailed to the magazine_ "Page 1":/news/10626, "Page 2":/news/10627, "Page 4":/news/10629, "Page 5":/news/10630 Finally, some diversity in an otherwise secular, mundane and pandering magazine. This is the first issue I actually read cover to cover. Some of the other online comments prove that the hate, prejudice and disdain that gay people face every day is real. I find it unfortunate that these comments come from supposedly well-educated Christian alum. Gay students have always been and always will be a part of the ND community. Not acknowledging them will not make them go away. This issue should have been published 20 years ago.

Mark Bomber '86
Denver, Colorado…

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The Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name, p. 4

By Readers

_Editor's note: The following letters were received through the magazine's React Online form and from those written or emailed to the magazine_ "Page 1":/news/10626, "Page 2":/news/10627, "Page 3":/news/10628, "Page 5":/news/10630 Special thanks for your series of stories in the summer _ND Magazine_. It came on a very poignant day for me. One year ago on an equally beautiful Saturday my youngest son sat on my porch to tell me that he "liked boys."

These articles helped me reflect on this last year. A year of great growth for all of us while remaining the same.…

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The Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name, p. 5

By Readers

_Editor's note: The following letters were received through the magazine's React Online form and from those written or emailed to the magazine_ "Page 1":/news/10626, "Page 2":/news/10627, "Page 3":/news/10628, "Page 4":/news/10629 Thank you for publishing this wonderful issue—especially the piece "God Gave me a Gay Son." It is a remarkable journey that this father traveled, and I am so impressed that you published it and shared it with everyone in the ND family. Please pass along my thanks to the author, Thomas Nelson.

Shelly Scheuring '85
Anthem, Arizona…

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The Hotspots of Invasion

By John Monczunski

The attacks happen every day all across the world. An ocean-going freighter takes on ballast water at Port A, then later discharges its tanks at Port B, injecting alien creatures from the A ecosystem into the B ecosystem. Anywhere from 7,000 to 10,000 different species may be floating in a ship’s ballast water, explains David Lodge, Notre Dame professor of biology. “…

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Marketing's moral myopia

By John Monczunski

The vegetable soup was chock full of good things to eat. Unfortunately, the good things were at the bottom of the bowl, invisible. The photographer for the print ad, however, had a novel solution: He put marbles in the bowl, forcing the veggies to the surface. No one saw a problem with the sleight of hand, and thus was born one of the classics of deceptive advertising. The Federal Trade Commission filed and won a lawsuit, and Campbell Soup Company was left with egg on its face.…

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