Doing Further Damage

By Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski ’85

According to researchers, one of the best predictors of children’s psychological functioning after divorce is the psychological adjustment of the residential parent and the quality of parenting provided by that parent. Many separated or divorced parents, however, often feel powerless when it comes to parenting effectively. They may be stunned by their own grief or overwhelmed by the difficulty of raising children or raising them without the cooperation of the other parent.…

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Breach of Faith

By Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski ’85

My brother Marc and I sit close together at the top of the stairs while our parents yell at one another downstairs. At age 15, Marc has become my protector, my rock of Gibraltar. Yet, on this evening, I cannot find comfort.

Cupboards slam shut. Dishes and pans clank in the sink. The yelling intensifies. We continue to sit there with the lights off, staring down toward the foot of the stairs. I also want to yell, want to say: Stop it already! This is wrong! Don’t you see what you’re putting us through? But I am 11 years old and petrified to do anything. I hug my arms in front of me and hold myself tight. I have been hearing my parents fight incessantly for years, but I still can’t get used to it.…

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